Your Way or the Highway?

BELIEVE, BELIEVE, BELIEVE that God hears the cries of your heart and understands your needs.  Proverbs 3:5-6 – Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not upon your own understanding; in all your ways submit to HIM and HE will direct your path.

When you know God’s will and you willfully move in another direction, that is unbelief.  You are saying, “Lord, I do not believe your plan is best.”


  • God called Moses to lead the Hebrew slaves out of Egypt
  • Moses stood firm under Egyptian pursuit, and told the Hebrews to watch and see what God is able to do. God parted the sea and saved the Hebrews
  • God provided a daily provision of fresh food. God will sometimes provide for your needs on an as-needed basis.
  • The journey included a place where there was no water. God creates a need that only He can meet, to draw you into dependency and intimacy with Him.
  • Moses was exasperated by the Hebrews’ constant complaining about no water. God commanded Moses to speak to a rock; Moses disobeyed the command and instead, hit the rock, acting out of his anger and frustration.
  • Moses took matters into his own hands; he did not believe that God’s method was best. God did not allow Moses into the Promised Land.

Moses was angry because the people of Israel lacked faith and constantly complained.  They were hardheaded and defiant. Moses was trying to follow God’s leadership, yet he lost his temper once again.

THINK ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE AND THE TRIALS YOU ENCOUNTER.  What is God telling you to do in response to your challenges?  Are you obeying His instructions and ordinances or are you acting out of your anger and frustration, like Moses did when he struck the rock instead of speaking to it?

Many spouses see themselves as “the good spouse”; they are involved with regular bible study, church attendance and ministry (all good things), but judge their spouse who is less involved.  Or a wife could view herself as “the good parent” because the books she reads and techniques she uses to discipline the children is a method superior to the impromptu commands given by her spouse.   Other areas for comparison:  he’s a saver, she’s a spender, he’s the strong silent type and she is a good communicator, she’s a neat freak and he’s a slob.  Every marriage has trying circumstances where one spouse becomes impatient and views the choices and behaviors of the other as wrong, which they may very well be.  However, one wrong does not justify another.

God says our prayers ARE powerful and effective, but he requires righteousness from His servants.  James 5:16 – Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.  The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Proverbs 15:1-3 – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up angerIs the Lord telling you to respond with humility instead of pride and defensiveness?

Luke 6:32-36 – If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.  Is God telling you to respond to your spouse with God’s love, which is rich and merciful and able to bring about a change of heart?

Not only do we disappoint God when we act out of our anger and frustration, we can also miss tremendous blessings God has as rewards for our obedience, i.e. entering into the Promised Land.

Name the thing that your spouse is doing or not doing that is causing you heartache and grief.  Instead of responding out of your anger and frustration, turn to God and ask Him for His leadership.  Listen carefully to what He tells you to do and then do it with expectancy of His power and divine influence to be released on your behalf.

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